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Saturday, December 31, 2011

Happy New Year?

Why do I make New Year's resolutions?  I always do, and I never keep them.  Never.  Then I feel bad about not accomplishing my goals.  Even simple ones.  Mine are the same as everyone else's, I suspect.  Eat better, exercise more, be more patient with my kids, finish that project, book, ...fill in the blank.  But I never do.  Not for more than a couple of weeks.  So why do I keep making them?  Some small , optimistic part of me buried under all the cynicism?  And if I don't make any resolutions this year does that mean I have lost all hope?  That this is the best I can do?
Is the real reason I don't keep them because I don't believe I will?  A self fulfilling downward spiral?  Is that just a personality flaw or human nature?

I wish I had some nice happy wrap up to this post, but I don't.  What I would like to know is if any of you actually kept your resolutions last year?  And if so, how?

That being said, if I were going to make resolutions, I would actually only make one:

Be More Disciplined.  It would solve all my 'issues' - eating, exercising, writing, keeping up the house, keeping up with email, interviews, review requests...


9 comments:

  1. Happy New Year! I enjoyed this post. I didn't keep my resolution last year- and I think most years I only keep my resolution for a couple of weeks. I hadn't made a resolution yet because I couldn't figure out something that I might keep. I love your idea- of discipline. I am going to use it! Then I can apply it to different areas- and as long as I am being disciplined I will meet my goal.

    Best of luck to you in 2012.
    ~Jess
    http://thesecretdmsfilesoffairdaymorrow.blogspot.com/

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  2. When setting goals, it's important to remember not to set your goals too high. Setting goals (New Year's Resolutions) January 1 that you're supposed to maintain for a whole year is setting yourself up for failure. It's hard to maintain a goal for a week - 7 days in a row. How are you supposed to do it for 365 days?
    Better, is taking smaller steps. Want to exercise more and eat better? Try a small substitution to your morning diet. Used to having 2 cups of coffee in the a.m. have 1. Use sugar on your fruit? Use a low calorie sweetener instead. Taking baby steps allows the body and mind to deal with the drastic step of making a change. When you've accomplished the first small step, then take another. You'll see, it works. Go for it!
    Now for a commercial: if you want discipline here's where you can get it for under $4: http://bookstore.iuniverse.com/Products/SKU-000502844/Discipline.aspx

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  3. The trick for me is a kind of variation on Gerard's -- I commit to sticking to resolutions for a relatively short period of time -- long enough for them to internalize as habits. Then the habits just sort of take over. In theory anyway :-)

    Another trick is to make a commitment that involves a 3rd party. I just signed up for my first Qi Gong lesson. Now there's no wriggling out of that dusty old "learn some sort of martial arts" resolution that I've toyed with for -- gosh -- at least 20 years now!

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  4. Or, set your goals AFTER the fact. Whatever you accomplish, say that's your resolution. Did you gain 5 pounds over the holidays? That was your resolution. Did you yell at your kids? You resolved to do that.

    Focus on the positive. You'll feel better about yourself.

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  5. Being more disciplined could work, but not allowing the outside world to get to me is a better strategy (at least for me).

    Perhaps being an author IS being more sensitive to the needs, desires and emotions of others. In 2011 that worked against me. I did not meet my deadlines. I did not release (or complete) a new book.

    My goal for 2012 is to filter those negative influences and be more productive.

    Happy writing!

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  6. Well thanks for all the comments!! Jess, I wish you as much luck as I wish myself! Gerard and Kirstin - that is excellent advice. I'll definitely be trying that for my smaller goals and I hope your lessons are everything you wanted. Scott, I have met all those goals. Thanks for the positive spin - LOL. And Anne, I have actually been thinking of that approach myself. Just too many years of 'this time the same thing that never works will work'. Going a different direction this year.

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  7. I think New Year resolutions only work if you resolve to do something you actually want to do and will enjoy. I always avoid the diet and fitness ones for that reason - the only sport I can stick to is yoga. This year I want to read more. Looking forward to achieving this one!

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  8. LOL...you need a good dose of my last blog post about resolutions...I call them Ugly Truths and Tips to Live By...LOL

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  9. If you stop back by Christina, post the link!! Thanks for commenting.

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